I had planned to discuss some of the reasons why significant others find it difficult to tolerate their upline and ultimately Amway based on my own personal experiences, but I've come across far too many similar stories on the Internet. I am not an outlier!
1. The sponsor is a complete jerk! It is someone that Ambot has known for many years: our sponsor, also known as Captain Fuck Up or the arrogant prick. He is the most useless piece of shit I've ever met in all of my years of living. His other finer points include being unreliable, irresponsible, throwing temper tantrums, and being asshole-ugly as a result of his arrogance. Then it's all downhill from there! If the sponsor is someone with whom the significant other has no relationship, it is extremely unwise to allow this fucker to sign you up for Amway. Any issues you already have with this jerk ass will only get worse. Making a commitment to anything - whether it's Amway or something else - with someone who your significant other doesn't want anything to do with is a bad idea. The resentment only intensifies.
2. There is a monetary loss. We had already tried our hand at the Amway scheme. I was well aware of what was about to take place. A lot of money would be wasted on products that I don't care for and won't use if we spent our money on them. We'd spend even more money on various instruments to "develop your business" and on all of the other expenses that come with travelling to out-of-state activities several times a year, to name a few examples. Ambot would either run out of money or become disenchanted again if I was lucky, and our losses would be limited to a few thousand dollars at the most. According to my calculations, you should allocate at least $700 per month for Amway-related expenses. The question is, how many people have that kind of spare cash floating around? If this is not the case, refer to number 3.
3. Getting into financial trouble. As in Ambot's case, this could be a result of credit card debt. Other people take out second mortgages on their homes or take out lines of credit to supplement their income. Whatever way you look at it, independent business owners (IBOs) are borrowing money to fund the ambitions of their uplines, and many former IBOs have lost their homes and declared bankruptcy because they were unable to repay the money they borrowed for Amway.
4. There is a loss of time. Do not be fooled by the commonly touted 10 to 15 hours per week – your spouse will waste far more time than that. They have to prospect every person they come across, telling them about this crazy home-based opportunity where they can make $70,000 per year in their spare time and begging them to come to a board plan meeting, all the while denying that it has anything to do with Amway or the Amway Corporation. Countless hours spent on the phone and sending text messages to my upline. Every week, two or three board plans are held at various downlines and crosslines, or a larger event where a Diamond comes to town once or twice a month may be held at the same location. For these meetings, a lowball estimate of 5 hours per night is given. Weekend rallies are held approximately once a month, during which a Diamond travels to the city and new pins are awarded. It all depends on whether it's a one-day or two-day event. Assume a minimum of 10 hours, however this might be increased to twice the time. Every year, events such as Family Reunion, Free Enterprise Days, and Spring Leadership seem to be conducted hundreds of kilometres away from home. Several hours of driving each way, followed by at least 30 hours of commitments for weekend activities. Moreover, this is a cautious estimate. Because of all of the time spent on Amway-related events, the IBO is unable to participate in birthday parties, weddings, spending time with family and friends, outings, vacations, shopping, and other activities. How many disgruntled couples have had to spend their birthdays alone at home because their significant other had to dash off to an Amway meeting? Not to mention the fact that she receives no assistance with domestic tasks.
5. I'm not a fan of the upline. This is strongly related to the general disapproval of the sponsor and the people with whom they identify themselves. It may take some time for a spouse to develop a dislike for their upline, at least until it becomes clear that the upline is taking up all of their time. In addition to money. However, most of the time, the Amway disinterested spouse simply becomes enraged by all of the garbage that comes out of the lips of the upline and then refuses to have anything to do with them.
6. The practise of brainwashing. This is a component of the upline's effort to keep the new IBO away from "negative" forces in their life, which may include spouses who are not interested in the Amway business opportunity. That's because the Amway cult's leaders are some of the most negative people you'll ever meet, spreading their prophecies of doom and gloom, and unhappiness, and the only way out of this dreadful existence is to join the cult. Despite the fact that some IBOs claim they are not in a sponsorship line that abuses IBOs or employs cult-like brainwashing techniques, I was in a sponsorship line that did. When your husband stops thinking for himself and simply repeats everything the upline says, you will know that something is wrong. The spouse believes whatever his or her upline says to be true until he or she is conditioned to believe that there is no way in hell that the information could possibly be incorrect. He denies what is happening to him and his life, and he does it by distancing himself from the rest of the world.
7. The use of deception. Whatever you choose to call it, all IBO's are guilty of deceiving others. They exaggerate their relationship with Amway, their level of success, and any potential abuses that may be occurring in their organisation. The primary deception is the tool fraud, as well as the greedy upline leaders' obsession with making money at the expense of their downline members' time and effort. When it came to prospecting, Ambot wasn't very good because he'd break down quickly and tell prospects that this was Amway, and then he'd lie and say that everything was going extremely well. All independent business owners (IBOs) are trained to say this, despite the fact that none of them is making money from their Amway business. The insistence on the spouse not being truthful when you know for a fact that they are not making any money through the Amway scheme is extremely irritating.
When you add them all together, you can see why the spouse can't stand the upline and/or Amway, and why this generates problems in a couple. IBOs that have been brainwashed will repeat the words of their upline, claiming, "That's because there is already something wrong with their marriage/relationship." When a spouse expresses disinterest in anything to do with Amway, this is the traditional response.
But not one of those fucking IBO’s can explain why there were no existing marital problems before Amway entered the picture.
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